A New Beginning

Wow!  I can’t believe it has been two years since I was here!  I’m excited to get this going again!  How can we help you?  What kind of solutions are you looking to find?  We are here to help you.  Just ask!

IHTEKSA: Letter to my Boys

Some things are forged of steel, some things are grown of the soil.

With steel, you boil it until it breaks down completely and then you twist that molten mass until it take form. Then, with each discovered imperfection, you steadily (and ruthlessly) hammer at the metal to eradicate the imperfections. There is no room for quirks of personality with the steel. You know what you want of it, and you force it to do your bidding. It’s what elevates us above all other creatures.

Human beings are not from steel, though.  They are from the earth, the soil.  Look at the blessing of a carrot growing in the garden. When one observes carrots in a garden, they may notice that they grow in all shapes and sizes. There are multiple colors as well as impressive qualities of taste, color and nutrients. Though, at first, a simple enough thing to see, upon inspection, you see a great green plant that hides a treasure.

In the world, there will be amazing differences in various individuals. Obstacles in the path can bring out very interesting and unique traits.

As your father, I have looked at you boys as a mighty steel, just waiting to be boiled, hammered, scraped, blasted, dipped in chemicals, painted, then baked in cruelly hot ovens for days. This process produces a perfect specimen. Something the world will look at and admire. It was easy for me to think that was the right way. It was the way of my father. I was hammered and twisted. I was broken many times and put back together by various people. Sadly, I thought that was the way of the world.

Some things are forged of steel, some things are grown of the soil: this is true, but there are a myriad of possibilities for you.  Not just one clear and correct path.  I realize that I cannot approach parenting as a blacksmith, but as a gardener.

Nurture, provide, protect.  Those are the things that allow growth.  These are the things of love.  I love you so.



Phase 2 Underway

Well, we did it.  We downsized from a 2000 square foot home with 3 bedrooms, 2 baths, a loft, and 5 acres to a townhouse of 1150 square feet, 2 bedrooms, 1.5 baths, and a patio.  But, we LOVE it!!!!!  We have given away possession, donated items, purged and purged some more, and I even have a new donate bag started!  We are loving the view of the mountain, the wildlife on the property, meeting the neighbors and their pets, taking walks….It is great!

I am so proud of our family!  We set out to do something, and we did it!  Phase 1 was to downsize and get to a smaller place.  We DID that!!!  Phase 2 will be to save money for something that is ours (a camper, a tiny home…something we can take with us).

Stay tuned to see how phase 2 is going.  Our plan is to have that “thing we could live in” purchased by the spring!!!!  If we could take this first step and successfully not fall, we can do anything!

Natural Odor Neutralizer

Odor Neutralizer

(We have a dog and two children, this stuff is awesome)

¼ cup baking soda

¼ cup apple cider vinegar

10 drops of essential oil (lemon or mint is best)

3-4 cups water


Put baking soda and vinegar together first and let it do its thing (if you aren’t aware, you may want to do this part on the porch).


Mix it all together and add it to an empty spray bottle.  To date nobody has poisoned themselves (or a pet or loved one) with a mixture of vinegar, baking soda and 10 drops of oil in 4 cups of water…. It really works on chairs, bedding, rugs, etc

What’s Left

When you get a great toy. I don’t mean a nice gift that is better than nothing. But a really excellent toy. Fun to hold, fun to look at, you miss having that toy when you are away from it.

These toys are rare in life. You only get them maybe once every 20 years or so that you really just can’t shake how awesome the toy is.

You take them with you every chance you get. Sometimes the best toys have a jagged edge and cut you and make a scar… you throw the toy away from you in anger and hurt, but that toy is just too damn cool to leave alone. So you work on that edge or you put some tape on it so it doesn’t hurt you again. Sure, it blemishes that toy. But you can hold it again and it’s nearly as good as when you first got it.

Then a horrible thing happens and you were reckless and broke the toy. Toys can be so hard to hold the right way…. they are tough in most places, but sometimes they get dropped at just the wrong moment and those toys shatter.

The best toys I’ve had that have broken, had pieces that were still better than brand new toys I had in my closet. So I would try to fix the toy.

And if that toy could not be fixed… I kept the pieces that were still good to have.

Sure, I wished I could have the toy the way it was the first day, but I just couldn’t.

So I kept what I had left.